I have a 40th birthday coming up very soon and to be honest with you I am not really sure how it happened. Sometime between trying to figure out who I was, how to be a mom and finding the person I lost while figuring out how to be a mom, 40 years flew past in the blink of an eye. My age really doesn’t bother me too much because I truly don’t feel 40. Hell sometimes I even forget that I am one of the adults in the room but the one thing that my pending birthday has got me thinking about is a sentence I heard in a testimonial video once. “You will never be as young as you are today”. Think about that for a minute. Let it sink in and really think about what that means. What a powerful statement. So simple yet so true and it has the potential to be instantly life altering when put into perspective. While I think that most of us know and realize that we are only given a finite amount of time on this earth, do we live our life with that realization or do we become complacent and let our days slip by?
Do we go after what we want in life or do we take what we are given? For some time now I’ve been going after what I want but not too long ago I was taking whatever I was given and was miserable about it. I’m not looking for sympathy over that, I am completely responsible for allowing myself to become miserable and I see that now. My happiness is my responsibility and my responsibility alone. What I am hoping is that I can remind some of you that it is time to take what you want. To go after it and make it happen whatever your “it” is.
We are conditioned to think that wanting more is a bad thing. We are taught “not to rock the boat” or to “play it safe”. Well I say rock the damn boat! Tip the bloody thing over if that makes you happy. You don’t have to accept or take what you are given. If you want more from life then get it. A different job, more travel, more money, more time, more kids, whatever it is, you have the power to make it happen. You have everything you need to make whatever changes you want and much like that testimonial video said, you will never be as young as you are today so go out there and make your dreams happen today. Everything stopping you is an excuse to keep you safe. Not trying is safe, it keeps you from failing but staying safe isn’t living. Staying safe is just surviving and you deserve more than just surviving. You should be thriving. You can be thriving and you can make it happen. I am living proof of that.
Did I ever imagine I would be running a boudoir photography business? Never. Full disclosure, photography was never even a dream of mine. Photography is Jarrett’s dream that has somehow worked itself into a business we are both so passionate about. I never once imagined that this is the path my life would take but I am so beyond happy and grateful it did. We get the opportunity to show women what they are missing when they look at themselves. We give women the opportunity to put themselves first and we also give women the opportunity to put value on themselves by investing in their self-confidence and worth.
Initially the purpose of a boudoir session may be to get beautiful, sexy images but your boudoir images are simply a by-product of the bigger picture. Of course having images that you can look back on is amazing but this experience is about so much more than the photos. It’s about stepping outside your comfort zone, pushing past the fear, negative thoughts and realizing that you can do it. It’s about seeing yourself in a way you may never have seen yourself before or have stopped seeing yourself as. It’s about lifting yourself up to a place you’ve maybe never felt worthy of being or maybe have forgotten how to get there.
While you will never be as young as you are today, it is never too late to make the changes in your life that will bring you true happiness. It can start with a boudoir shoot. If you can bare it all, become so incredibly vulnerable and love and appreciate yourself for where you are right now in your life imagine what else you can accomplish getting outside your comfort zone? Truly, the sky's the limit.